So often we set goals for ourselves and look forward to the feeling of success when those goals are achieved. We set the bar high and look forward to the day we can celebrate our accomplishment and for achieving a new level of personal or professional success. Maybe our goal is to lose 20 pounds, regain our health, improve our business, our financial status or reconnect with loved ones. Regardless of the goal we set, here’s what often happens.
While these goals can inspire us to be, do and have more, we’re often left with a keen sense of disappointment if we fail to achieve them. We feel frustrated, upset and angry with ourselves as we identify a failure to reach the goal we set as somehow failing ourselves. We may assume that failing to achieve the goal means we’re not capable of change. So often, we also respond to these setbacks by giving in, giving up and staying exactly where we are.
So, here’s a thought.
What if instead of setting those lofty goals and only enjoying the feeling of success when we achieve them, what if we took a look at the different areas of our lives we wanted to improve upon and considered another approach. For example, let’s say we want to lose weight, improve our relationships, regain our health, enhance our image, develop a better business, etc. Then, once we’ve identified what it is we’d like to change, what if we simply committed ourselves to implementing, taking on, doing or trying just one more…
For example, what if you committed to reading just one more page of that inspirational book you picked up. Then, day after day, you simply implemented the One More Principle when it came to reading. Can you imagine the feeling of success you’d have over time when eventually you managed to finish the entire book? What if somewhere within that one extra page you read, you were struck by exactly the right words you needed to read at the time? What if that extra page led to a new idea, a new way of thinking, feeling, acting, believing or behaving?
Reading just one more page of a book isn’t a huge commitment but over time, the impact could be profound and the sense of accomplishment could increase your confidence and eagerness to keep moving forward.
As far as your health is concerned – what if you committed to eating just one more healthy meal each week. Over the course of a year, that’s an additional 52 healthy meals you’d be eating in exchange for 52 unhealthy meals you would have had, had you not implemented the One More Principle. Eating just one extra healthy meal each week (given that we have at least 3 to choose from each day) doesn’t seem like a big deal but exchanging 52 unhealthy meals for 52 healthy ones may just be the thing that gets you to commit to a new way of living. Maybe that one change leads you to lowering your blood pressure, losing the brain fog or getting off of a medication. Maybe that one change reduces your incidence of digestive issues or helps get you back to a comfortable weight and size. Maybe that one change boosts your confidence and inspires to do or try something you were uncomfortable with in the past.
What if this new level of wellness inspires you to then seek out new ways to feel better as you notice an improvement in your mood, level of energy and overall well being? You may notice you’re sleeping better, laughing more and being more productive each day. All of this coming from the idea of simply adding one more.
What if you committed to doing one more minute while doing your usual workout? What if that one minute you added was the one minute you needed to come up with a solution to a problem that’s been sitting on the “back burner” of your mind? What if in that minute, you had that brilliant idea or came to a new conclusion about a decision you’ve been putting off?
As far as your relationships are concerned – what if you spent one more minute of focused attention on those you love? Could that extra minute be the one where the dearest people to you feel more loved, valued, heard and appreciated? Could that minute have been the difference where your partner or child opened up about something they’ve been meaning or trying to say and finally felt comfortable enough to share it with you? If so, can you imagine the impact adding one minute of focused attention would have in your relationship with your partner, with your kids or with your friends?
As far as your business is concerned – what if you made one more call to get the word out about what you do, took one more minute to speak with your staff or spent one more minute showing your clients/customers/patients/students how much you appreciate them? What if in that minute, you learned just what your team needed, cleared up a misunderstanding with a prospect or found out what it is that encourages someone to want to work with you? One minute isn’t a big deal but when it leads to a happier staff, better communication and more satisfied clients, it sure is.
What if you took one more minute to appreciate all that you have, all of the blessings you’ve been given and all of the lessons and opportunities that have come your way? What if you took one more minute to show your gratitude for the kindness of another person, for the health you’ve been given, for the laughs you shared with another and for beauty that surrounds you?
It’s those seemingly insignificant little bits of extra effort, focus, time and attention that over time yield big results. So with this in mind, what’s your “one more”?
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